S2: Stalkery A Form of Flattery? Entry II of III

As in my last post I will be discussing love/relationships. This post also has to do with Hollywood's portrayal of love stories. I asked a question one time; can any form of stalking be a form of flattery? Having been stalked and having had my privacy violated, I want to be careful not to justify all forms of stalking but I wanted to pose the question from the stand point of pursuing a women. How much "finding out information", if any, is too much? In my mind finding out any information is a little creepy. I guess I should come up with a scale. That way I or you can say "finding out my phone number without me telling you is an 8 on the "creepy" meter". For those of you who don't know what creepy means, it means scary or inappropriate. So what is too much? Last names? Jobs? Hangout spots? Likes? Dislikes? Web pages? Schools? Ex's? Addresses? Or is it just anything that hasn't been told to you? I always think about the movie "Love Jones" when it comes to this subject. Lorenz Tate's character pursues Nina Long's character in my eyes as the most stalking way I've ever seen. Actually getting her address and going to her home. Nia Long’s character Instead of being terrified and calling the police let's this guy that she doesn't really know, in her house and thus the movie’s love story is born. I don't know if people think about that. But that was really something that really stuck out to me. Had that not of happened the movie would of never been. She rejected his every advance before that time. These are the movies that we were raised on. If your parents never taught you how to approach a women this would be your example and you would think it was ok to advance a women like this. Or is this the way that women want to be approached? Man that's scary to me. My sister has one time to tell me some crazy dude came to her house after she turned him down. Don't ya’ll remember "Player's Club" how that guy followed Diamond home and told her he was just making sure she got home safe Like he does every night. What's the difference? Is it cute to find out where you work and send flowers? These are real questions to me I want to know where the line is. I know where I stand on these questions but where does everyone else stand? And shouldn't it be universal answers? You think about it I know what I think.